Anxiety and Worry Workbook [Print Replica] Kindle Edition
Author: Visit ‘s David A. Clark Page ID: B00FOT65TC
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File Size: 9771 KBPrint Length: 294 pagesPublisher: The Guilford Press; 1 edition (November 15, 2011)Publication Date: November 15, 2011 Sold by: Digital Services, Inc. Language: EnglishID: B00FOT65TCText-to-Speech: Not enabled X-Ray: Not Enabled Word Wise: Not EnabledLending: Not Enabled Enhanced Typesetting: Not Enabled Best Sellers Rank: #162,358 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store) #23 in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Counseling & Psychology > Pathologies > Anxieties & Phobias #89 in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Nonfiction > Politics & Social Sciences > Social Sciences > Social Work #100 in Kindle Store > Kindle eBooks > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Counseling & Psychology > Mental Health > Mood Disorders
This is an important book, for obvious reasons. It’s the first self-help book on anxiety by Aaron T. Beck, the founder of cognitive therapy. It’s published hot on the heels of Beck’s 2010 revised treatment manual for cognitive therapy of anxiety disorders, also co-authored with David Clark. Beck’s original treatment manual for anxiety was published in 1985 and revised in 2005 but this is a major revision of his approach. He has now provided an extremely comprehensive account of the scientific evidence for cognitive therapy and a more carefully defined and up-to-date set of guidelines for clinicians. This self-help workbook is basically the companion text for that clinical manual, presenting the same approach in a version designed for the general public to use by themselves or as homework when seeing a cognitive therapist using the same approach.
It’s not as much of of a light-read as some popular self-help books. It’s a workbook in the true sense, with a thorough and systematic chapter-by-chapter approach, including many forms to complete and regular exercises to engage in, perhaps requiring half an hour of work per day for several months. This, in other words, is a serious evidence-based guide to addressing anxiety directly and it will require commitment from the reader.
The book begins with a generic approach to anxiety, which can be used for subclinical problems and many mild-moderate issues. The later chapters focus on three special categories of anxiety: panic attacks, social anxiety and chronic worry. These problems are experienced by many people but the chapters will, of course, be particularly relevant to people who suffer from panic disorder, social phobia, or generalised anxiety disorder (sometimes called the "worry" disorder). Download Anxiety and Worry Workbook Kindle Edition PDF Free Download
Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You Hardcover – May, 1997
Author: Visit ‘s Susan Forward Page ID: 0060187573
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Forward, who gave us the best-selling The Men Who Hate Women, and the Women Who Love Them, offers a course on self-defense for anyone manipulated by guilt.
Copyright 1997 Reed Business Information, Inc.
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“Breathe a sigh of relief! Susan Forward helps you identify and correct an intensely destructive and confusing pattern of relating with those you love. I highly recommend this important book!” — Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
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Hardcover: 272 pagesPublisher: Harpercollins; 1st edition (May 1997)Language: EnglishISBN-10: 0060187573ISBN-13: 978-0060187576 Product Dimensions: 1 x 6.8 x 9.8 inches Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds Best Sellers Rank: #177,735 in Books (See Top 100 in Books) #1298 in Books > Self-Help > Relationships > Interpersonal Relations #8078 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Psychology & Counseling
This book does a very clear job of defining emotional blackmail so you can begin to easily spot emotional blackmailers in your life. It then concludes with telling you specifically how to deal with emotional blackmail, that is, how to keep your energy, resources, and sometimes your very soul, from being stolen by them.
Something that was particularly important for me personally in the book was the part at the end where she talks about not emotionally blackmailing *yourself*! What an insight! I realized that even when rigid, controlling people are not around to inspire guilt, fear and shame in me to get me to do things that are hurtful to me for their selfish benefit, I have a "voice" in my head that does the job for them, telling me that whatever I do that doesn’t fit the world view of past and present blackmailers is "wrong," "selfish," or even "evil." So I beat myself up on behalf of my blackmailers even when they are not around to do it.
I also was impressed by the insight that not only does it "take two to tango," that no one can blackmail me if I don’t let them, but that it is also possible for me to actually "train" people to blackmail me. This is particularly, true, I think, for those of us raised in rigid, controlling homes with emotionally blackmailing parents. Thereafter, we are, so to speak, fertile ground for any future emotional blackmailers.
I had rather been realizing these sorts of things the past few years now that I’m in my 40s (the middle years when we suddenly reevaluate our whole life), and gradually eliminating emotional blackmailers from my life, without exactly using that term. (The term I used was ridding myself of people whose presence felt like "being nibbled to death by ducks.") This book has validated my innate human "right" to not be eaten alive by the selfish demands of others.
Kudos to Ms. Forward!
I have done a pretty thorough reading of books dealing with control, cults, emotional abuse, etc. I feel like I could write a thesis on this stuff by now. This was the best all around. I am a third party observing a loved one in a controlling relationship. There isn’t a book out there that really addresses my situation, but I have gleaned wisdom from many. What I love about this book is that it gives very concrete strategies for dealing with controlling people. The strategies are very well laid out, lots of examples of phrases that neutralize the offender. As a therapist, she also addresses the discomfort many of us would likely encounter when trying to put these strategies into practice. In addition to the concrete information on strategies, she describes why it might be hard to recognize that you are in an unhealthy controlling situation and how to know for sure. She helps clarify the personal damage victims of control sustain. I have become much more aware of people in my life that may be using unhealthy methods of control and have used the advice to stop, think and strategize to help me. It even helped me become a little wiser to ploys of friends of my kids. This book shows us how to resolve unhealthy control without necessarily having to end the relationship. With these techniques everyone might just come out a winner.
We are not victims of manipulation. We allow manipulation to happen to us and with careful observation we can neutralize it. This is what Susan Forward believes. I don’t know if I agree because I haven’t yet had a chance to practice her techniques in earnest, but I needed to comment on the content itself of the book, "Emotional Blackmail".
It is impossible for an author to address every specific detail of every reader’s personal situation. But this is as close as you can get. Forward gives stories and testimonials of people she has worked with who have used her techniques with success. Unlike other authors that do this, however, Forward does not simply apply the techniques to those situations and expect that you’ll be able to apply it to a scenario of your own. She separates the stories from the guidelines. She provides some fantastic exercises for further clarity of the techniques she describes.
One of the techniques I especially enjoyed reading about was "buying your time". Don’t respond immediately to your blackmailer. Give them time to "stew". In other words, try to avoid snap decisions when dealing with blackmailers. She groups manipulators into different categories. "Tantalizers" are the group I deal with most often. They are the ones who get you to do what they want by making it appear there is something incredible in it for you. This may sometimes be the case, but it’s important to realize that your needs are not the manipulator’s true motivation. Forward explains and clarifies this beautifully.
This is a very well-written book and I recommend it highly. Download Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You – May, 1997 PDF
